Easter 2021

My almost 4-year-old is going through what my husband says “is just a phase” where she prefers him to me in just about every way and situation through the day but putting her to bed. She wants daddy to pick her up from school, him to pour her milk and every time I speak to her, she replies with “NO IM TALKING DADDY.” Before yesterday I truly could not have cared less but for whatever reason yesterday started getting to me. Maybe because it was a holiday and being the type A human, I am I tried to make the day perfectly magical for her and Taylor- although she is only 11 months and spent the morning playing with a toilet paper roll. I stayed up late the night before filling eggs with chocolate to hide through the house as everyone else was sleeping, I chewed off pieces of an old carrot and scattered it around the house so there would be evidence that the damn rabbit showed his face and I spent WAY too much money filling baskets, even made sure the dog had something too. The entire day was filled with MOM SHHH I am talking to Daddy or MOVE or NO NOT YOU! I could not do anything right and finally I asked my husband Jeff if he noticed that she acted like she all the sudden doesn’t like me anymore, and he said yes, but I think its just a phase like everything else and she will move out of it. Why do kids do this to us Mom’s? I asked my Aunts at our family Easter party yesterday and my Aunt Laura (who now has 19-year-old twin boys) told me that she once told her kids “I pumped for you both constantly, I even did it in a Taco Bell parking lot once and this is how you treat your Mother”. They replied with “no one asked you to.”!  Aint that some shit… As Moms I fell like we KILL ourselves trying to make life perfect for our kids. We agonize over if we made the right decision in putting them into daycare and feel Mom guilt as we drive into work every day, so they have a better life. We are constantly putting ourselves last to make sure our kids know they come first. We are the ones filling Easter baskets and stockings with gifts and the ones going 9 months without a decent highlight because it takes time away from them. I find myself sitting here saying…. WHY?! Why do we do that and when do we start getting the hint? Our kids are going to give us attitude about packing the wrong snacks for school anyways so why do we put ourselves on the back burner at our own expense?

Tell me someone has the answer?!