2020- The Year of the MOTHER

I think for many MANY years to come whenever anyone mentions 2020 people’s response will be ugh that was the year of the Mother or…that year was a Mother F-Er. While I agree  this year has been profound for many it was also the year my sweet Taylor was born so damn you Covid-19 for taking my little pumpkins year.

Every day I read another statistic about Mom’s being forced to leave their careers to care for their families and tend to their kids. Something like 865,000 women will leave the workplace in September 2020. That’s freaking unbelievable! I was planning on working until the week before Taylor was to be induced because I had a project that would be ending then and was told that my raise was contingent on how this project would end, and since I had been asking for a raise for 3 years at that point I was determined to get it done right and on time. I am sure you could understand my disappointment when I had to admit that couldn’t do it and had to take leave early and let someone else close the project. I took an amazing 13 weeks of leave and came back to find out that the job I had been working so hard for the last 3 years was no longer mine and I was going to be doing more administrative work- which for where I was, was a major step backwards and a MAJOR slap in my face and has left me wandering down this stupid self-pitting path where I am left trying to figure out who I am and what I stand for and I can tell you this… Being a Mom is freaking hard, being a working Mom is freaking harder! In any situation, companies NEED to find a better way to support us. This balancing act is taxing on our mental and physical health. Shit…most of us come back to work after having a baby profundity sleep deprived … leaking breasts and still bleeding and we are just expected to pick back up where we left off or be told you are just going to be a support role now because hell, that’s what you know best. You guys, this shit is UNACCEPTABLE IN ANY YEAR let alone in 2020 when Moms are working from home ( some multiple jobs) taking care of our home, homeschooling our kids and trying to keep our Toddler from telling aa co-worker she just went poop while being on a zoom call. We have got to do better for our Mom’s in fact- corporate America YOU must do better for us because we are the glue that holds this shit show together!